Right now I should be creating a Father’s Day recap, or sharing my fears of summer break just around the corner, but these last few weeks I am stuck scratching my head. This is a place of fun. A place where I can purge my thoughts without judgement; be authentic and relatable to all moms out there with a little sarcasm and wit in the delivery. Each time I sat down to write I felt like maybe that was all in my mind, mom’s don’t support relatability and nothing goes without judgement. Then, I close my laptop and another day goes by, no post.
I say this in light of two terrible accidents that have been all over the news in the last two weeks. The first is a gorilla being killed after a three year old falls into the zoo enclosure, the second is a Disney alligator attacking and killing a two year old. It is bad enough to watch and hear on loop the devastating details of both of these incidents, but worse to read and hear bloggers… parent bloggers blame these parents for both of these incidents.
I judge other people; I do, even when I know I shouldn’t. But in these instances, when we know even in our most helicopter mom moments these things could happen. I was in utter shock to read post after post of complete strangers question the whereabouts of these parents, and their lack of parenting ability. I could only imagine the horror of those parents watching their son being dragged around by a 400 pound gorilla, or the defeat of trying to pry an alligator’s jaw open to release your baby. Now imagine if they, these same parents, read the criticism as if they planned it, prayed for it, or they chose not to “parent” just enough so it would happen. Really?
I guess my fantasy of being authentic in hopes of not being judged and creating community is just that, a fantasy. If other parents can openly and blatantly blame the parents in these two nightmares, then for sure these same parents scoff at my honesty of my struggles with my kids, my sarcastic view of parenting, or the decisions I make as a mom for my boys. I’m frustrated, disappointed, just plain sad for these parents.
Apologies this post does not have the usual tone of the content published on this blog, I just had to get it off my chest.