Yes, would I ask something like this? … yes, yes I would! However this post is not about my longing desire for quiet time multiple times a day, this is about Big T.
Two summers ago a brilliant mother shared that she gave her children “quiet time” in the summer every day. This was time alone in another room to read, rest, or play quietly. It gives them time to separate, calm down and relax, and sometimes one may fall asleep and as such they needed it. In this time she would prepare dinner, get some things done, or give herself a much needed timeout. Raise your baby bottle, this gem was game changing!
It was about 24 hours since she told me this before we implemented it at home. At first the boys thought they were being punished, no one went willingly. But we started with just five minutes with the oven timer and soon worked our way up to 20 minutes. In this time I would put The Boss Man down for a nap. The following summer, it was routine, and they hated breaking from what they were doing but followed along, no questions asked.
This summer threw me quite a curve ball when after the first week of quiet time, Big T only hours after quiet time asked for quiet time again. The next day we had only been up and at the day for a few hours (9:30am if I remember) and he asks for his quiet time. Few days later he asks again? This entire time I am declining, reminding him he already had it, and why stop what he is in the middle of doing? Honestly, which child asks for quiet time? And where was that brilliant mom now? Of course mother’s guilt had me questioning if it was me? Is he sad? Is this because we co-slept when he was a baby?
I realized there wasn’t anything wrong with it. I mean, he is the ripe old age of seven going on eight and may not be as engaged with his two younger brothers and what they choose to do as much anymore. He is identifying a need to step back and do something alone, or just may need to relax. Holy hell, if anyone can understand that, I do! I felt bad for giving him such a hard time about it for the first few weeks of summer. He just needed, he just wanted some quiet time.
Now he doesn’t really ask so much as inform me that he is going to his room, and truth is he really isn’t trekking up there all that much anyway. Everybody needs a little quiet time, lesson learned.